Little (or big!) Facial "tweeks"...anyone all in?

Mjsred, I love that you brought this up. I think it is fabulous that you had a bit of help.  Why are some women so bitchy and judgmental when it comes to plastic surgery?  A few years ago, I had a nose job. It all started from a medical issue but in the end it was no different then any other nose job. (The long story short: bad migraines, crooked nose putting to much pressure on cranial nerves, blah, blah, blah.....)  The funny thing is that after my surgery I always felt the need to justify my choice for having it done.  As if my procedure was somehow "okay" because of my medical problems.  The truth is, yes the medical issue prompted me but in the end it was the cosmetic side of the surgery that had me going outside of my health plan and paying cash for a damn good nose job (ah hem, if I do say so m'self, LOL!).  Sure I wanted to resolve the medical issues but in the end I wanted a pretty nose too.  It's a personal choice, if it isn't your personal choice, no big deal.  I don't go around criticizing the choices people make regarding their hairstyle, the clothes they wear or the way they apply their makeup.  Aren't all of those things little rituals that we perform to improve upon our appearance? In the end aren't we all simply trying to look and feel our best?I can't help but feel that it involves too much negative energy to go around criticizing other people's choices. Besides, my six year old and I are working on taking a much more positive approach to life.  Lizzy and I feel that we should all act a little more like Sponge Bob Squarepants.  He never intentionally hurts anyone, is beautifully simplistic, works hard, is always optimistic, and is a very loyal friend. Works for me.  

I am pretty positive that I won't have any actual elective surgery done. In general this is because I have had plenty of non-elective surgery. And I hate it. That being said I used to think that I would never die my hair to look younger. But I am pretty sure that I have no problem with that now. I think that people shouldn't feel like they have to do something to be more beautiful. But for something serious such as surgery, if the individual has really thought through it all and knows that it is right for them, then I say go for it. But it should always be for themselves and not for the benefit of others. But people do tend to be "judgey" on this issue. Which is of course ridiculous. If someone feels really good about making a physical change and it is safe, then more power to them.  I am having some breast cancer concerns/issues. Not sure where I am with it all. But I have begun dipping into the breast reconstruction information just in case I need to. This body image stuff is tricky! But the bottom line is that it is a major personal choice. I hope that if I have to make the choice that I am able to feel confident in my decisions like all of you beyond lovely, wise, and confident ladies!

Ladies, you are my new heroes! I have been contemplating having some (ok..major) work done. I mean, just look at my profile, my picture, I don't think make-up can help me. I am hideous! So I have been talking to my friends and they are so against any type of surgery, they make me feel horrible just thinking about it. But Stylemamma said it best...its a personal choice. And aren't we all entitled to our personal choices? I don't know you, but I thank you for your kind words, even if they weren't meant for me directly. Ok...I'll sit on the shrinks couch...LOL...I have always been insecure about my looks. Look at me, I know I am not pretty. Trust me, if you agree, which you should, you will not be hurting my feelings. It is what it is. But, after reading your "blog" here, all the comments, I will do what I WANT to do, what will make me happy and if my friends don't support me, then I guess they aren't really my friends anyway.
Sorry to vent to all of you. Like I said, I feel like I have been on a shrinks couch!!!  LOL
Billie

Each of you lovely ladies just made my whole night, thank you! Billie you have definitely come to the right place for these type of discussions and advice. First off, You aren't hideous and should never say things like that about yourself.  Negative self-talk is very damaging and we all have to fight against negative thinking.  I am in awe of the women on this site. We are talking serious wisdom, sincerity, intelligence and LOVE.  I mean just look at what mjsred, kellie76, potionprincess and Indi all have in common; HONESTY. Does it get any better than that?  Like Indi so wisely states, if you ever make the choice to have elective surgery done, make sure you go to the absolute best doctor you can find. When I had my nose done, it cost me twice as much as what other doctors had quoted me.  I paid through the nose (sorry couldn't resist) for my excellent surgeon's skill, expertise and WISDOM. He came highly recommended.  Not that high fees automatically mean high quality, but I do believe that low fees are something you should be very wary of; be careful. All right ladies, it's us against Father Time.  Are you in? Our team motto, like Indi says, "tweak a little, accept a little".  Do I hear matching t-shirts? 

I believe in personal choice.  After all isn't this America?

Mjsred-Thanks so much for your kind words. It probably means more than you know. It's a tough time. I feel like I am on a roller coaster of emotions. I don't have a clear picture yet of what all is going on. But I am having to make tough decisions left and right. So it does help to just know that people like you care. I love coming here and having the option of having fun or being serious.

It's so strange that in our society, we are pressured to have the perfect body. We're too fat, too thin, too tall, too short, too dark, too light, too this or that... So we're encouraged to buy thousands of dollars worth of products to make us "better"... But cosmetic surgery is so frowned upon! I personally don't hold it against anyone for having surgery. People can have their own opinions about it. But don't be rude and don't judge them.

I had Lasik eye surgery 5 years ago and it's the BEST BEST thing I've ever done. Goodbye contact lenses and goodbye glasses. It is so worth it. I would love to go for hair laser removal for my hair line in the back and I have a little bit of sideburns, I know gross.But my hair is light and you can't really see it but it bugs me. Oh and my arm pitts. I would love not to have to shave my arm pitts anymore, especially when my husband and I go on few days camping/hiking trips, this would be awsome. As anyone ever had hair laser removal? And would you recommend it? I would love to get any advise before I take the plunge. I think this is a very personal thing and everyone should do what will make them feel good and happy. No judgment here! Each is own! I Love indi's comment "tweak a little and accept a little".  This is one of my favorite post, All your comments are so touching and beautiful. Stylemama I love your nose! Kellie76 my heart goes out to you and hope all will be ok. I'll keep you in my prayers and sending positive energy your way. mjsred thanks for starting this post your awesome. You ladies are all beautiful!

I haven't had any done, but, it is something I would consider. Not yet. But, I think if anyone does that is their business. And I have to thank Stylemama for summing up the SpongeBob philosophy. It really made my morning to read that!

Hi Agrimony!  Thanks, Lizzy (my 6yr.old) and I are proud card holders of the Bubble Blowing Society!  We made that up because Sponge Bob LOVES HIM SOME BUBBLES!  Both, Lizzy and I struggle with patience and losing our temper so we have opted for a new approach to our issues.  Enter: SPONGE BOB SQUARE PANTS, he is the epitome of the "right" attitude.  It probably sounds silly but it really has helped us both.  When we start to go awry, one of says, Be the sponge.... We just crack up over that.  Laughter is the ultimate healer right?  xoxoxo Dawn

My almost 12 year old still loves Sponge Bob. LOL.  She is at a hard age/stage. Wanting to grow up (and darn it that is coming any time) and still hang on to her various favorite things.  I seriously appreciate your bringing it up. We do clash a lot, and I think using Sponge Bob is the answer!!! 

I will never say never like kate2004rock , cause our face change and maybe somtime a lil help from surgeron can make a woman much better  and feeling good in her body even if nobody can notice what she changes ....

I don't see anything wrong with a little extra help :) Whatever makes you happy and feeling your best, as long as you're not using it to try and compensate for deeper-seeded self esteem issues or something.  I really want smart lipo for my double chin, it's something that's always bothered me!

Girlfriend, all you need are BRACES.  That's it.  2 or 3 years, and you'll be a different person.  I was An Adult Wearer of Braces and it changed EVERYTHING.Anyway, you have awesome hair and a nice-shaped face, so...see an orthodonist and get started.Good luck!

King Taco, in the forums direct replies don't show underneath the other post like they do on the blog comments, not sure why.  I always just say who I'm addressing.

Is it true that restalyne hurt's much more than anyother cosmetic injection this quote was from a beauty editor-"like having shards of glass under your skin"-but the result's always look so good.