It turns me off to a guy when...
Tue, 10/27/2009 - 6:07am
For me, it's when a guy says he wants to "hang out" instead of asking me on a date, or when he merely suggests a date instead of being assertive enough to suggest firm plans...or takes too long (2 or 3 weeks). To me that spells either a) lack of interest on his part or b) a flake. Being asked out via text message is lame, too.What about you, ladies? What is your turn off (or turn on!) in a guy's behavior?
Well I'm married almost 2 years now, so I'm done with the dating stuff. But...I did learn that a relationship should not feel like something you have to work at to keep alive. You shouldn't feel like you have to earn a guy's interest or work hard to keep them coming back to you or asking you out. A good relationship will just naturally happen. When I look back on all the guys I dated in the past, I really wish I would have been able to see through them and realize that they didn't really like me. Honestly, I read the book "He's Just Not that Into You" shortly after meeting my husband. It really helped me get closure on all the past relationships I had by showing me what the guy was really thinking and how, well, they really just weren't into me at all. :) I really suggest it to anybody and everybody who is still in the dating world.
http://www.rubysbeauty.com
Definitely a great book (and movie!) Thanks Ruby :)I just had to post that after I cut-off a guy I got bored with--because he couldn't get his shit together and made excuses and was sort of a lame-fish.
http://ediblelove.wordpress.com/
Good for you! It's kind of a relief cutting a lame guy off isn't it? Hope you find yourself a good one :)
http://www.rubysbeauty.com
aww sometimes guys can tae a while because they're really nervous or they're not sure if you are single or not!Lol what turns me off is when you're tottally into this guy and he finaly asks you out and then on the date... you find out he's a smoker...Yuk. It's like... dam... back to the drawing boards.also when guys act too macho... that turns me off. And when theyre pants are falling off their ass!!
Tan is Love
guys should come to you (:it'll happen when it does .it irritates me when guys... ignore you to talk to the prettier girl!
same! omgg, they always sayhey lets go out, and then theyact all weird.
Julie Dee <3
awwh. haha. this has never happened to me before. when a guy is interested he asks me out. no problem there. i like assertive and confident :) in the future, if a guy says, "let's go out?" reply with "when did you have in mind?" and smile :)
http://ediblelove.wordpress.com/
"guys should come to you"100% agree. too many women don't get that.
http://ediblelove.wordpress.com/
not sure if a woman is single or not shouldn't have any bearing on whether he asks a woman out. he should ask and then he'll find out. what's the worst that could happen? she says no because she's in a relationship? well she could say no even if she's single! hehesmoking is an icky icky habit and a huge turn off for me too. as for the pants thing? i haven't seen that look since I was 19! haha
http://ediblelove.wordpress.com/
lucky! lol alot of guys around her didnt get the memo that its not in style anymore...
Tan is Love
Some men are so lazy about initiating a relationship. And, there are women that do all the chasing so those men get away with it!
King Taco,Agreed... but those relationships, more often than not (of course there are few exceptions), don't last because it is innate for men to pursue to want to pursue...and eventually the men who were chased instead of doing the chasing grow bored and their women grow resentful.
http://ediblelove.wordpress.com/
I second the pants falling off their ass thing :PI don't want to see your underwear the first time I meet you, haha.
I always want to go over and debag people when they have their pants inder their butts-its like well your butts on show anyway so whats the point in your trousers!!! and it looks soooo uncomfortable!!!stinky breath or long nails is a majooooorrrrr turn off for me!!! yuk!
I hate it when a guy says " I dont know" to most of the simple questions that i am asking. It is such a turn off..also when they are super sarcastic and after you never know if they are joking, being honest or just lying. !
If a guy doesn't know, or only wants to hang out or takes 2-3 weeks to get around to talk to you its simple. He just isn't that into you. If he is into you he is coming over, he is making the effort and no matter how early he has to be up the next day he is taking you out that night. I wouldn't waste my time or effort on someone who isn't into me.
i hate that in a guy as well!!!
My new Ebay Store: cossiepieMy blog: http://lazyscorner.blogspot.com/
after Is820's post I want to make it clear I didn't start this thread to bash men. Now I feel bad. I only started this to get other women's dating/relationship perspectives.. not list of negative characteristics both men (I love men! I think they're great hahah) and women can have and complain and be harsh and critical.
http://ediblelove.wordpress.com/
yikes!! sorry!!! i think i lost control yesterday after the terrible customer service i received and started lashing out wherever i can, i'll get rid of it now!! sorry again!!
My new Ebay Store: cossiepieMy blog: http://lazyscorner.blogspot.com/
hahah. it's all good. i was like...woah
http://ediblelove.wordpress.com/
It turns me off when a guy is too assertive & tells me what to do.
I agree with all of those! Why do guys think it's okay to have long nails & even if they're not long, would it kill them to file them so they're a bit in shape! I've seen guys with somewhat tent shaped nails!!
I totally agree with the long nails, ick!!! Another dealbreaker for me is sandals!! That totally ruins it for me. And I don't mean flip-flops if you're going to the beach or just hanging out in shorts, I mean sandals as part of an outfit.
Gonna' rain on this party,LOL! I ADORE men and honestly haven't ever been around one long that "wasn't into me..."After more than a few years and more than a few of the surly/sexy beasts in my life,the one "thing" I know for sure is that they really aren't all that tough to figure out :)I held out for a "Prince" in the most basic sense of the word but still find that WAY too many of my single friends are holding men to some pretty unrealistic standards these days?Every single person you share a space with for any length of time is going to have "something" you won't love abou them.I dislike smoking BUT can live with an occassional cigar outside.Get down and dirty with them,flatter them,cook for them,act like you care about their interests, (even if you don't,sorry...sometimes it's okay not to let it all hang out about what you "feel") and be nice to their family and friends: you might be suprised at how "into you" he becomes:) Oh...and PLEASE don't feel you need to "share" every detail of what makes you tick,how you get gorgeous,or what you do when he's not around to amuse yourself with him...he's only interested in the end result,trust me:)I think it's mean to expect a guy to "show concern" while you render him speechless with details of your Brazillian wax:0WAY too many women are too busy starring in their own reality shows of the mind these days according to a LOT of great men I know! :) I wish a Prince for all of you!
mjsred: I totally nodded along with, agreed with and appreciated everything you said. Very wise, very sound thoughts.
http://ediblelove.wordpress.com/
I agree mjsred. I don't tell guys every detail of my Brazzilian wax and yet I find myself uber single lately. The last guy broke up with me so he could spend more time concentrating on his mma fighting/jijistu/muay-thai garbage *not bitter* (ya ya "he's just not that into you" ive heard it before) yet we are still on speaking terms and I think he still likes me as a person :/ pfft whatever I give up. I don't like people who smoke but I'm a hopeless romantic and if the guy smokes but is utterly great otherwise I might just let it slip.
I don't think my standards are high enough because I've gone through my share of crap with guys (especially when I was younger and more naive, and having a boyfriend was the end all be all). OH AND SKINNY JEANS!!! I hate skinny jeans on men!!! Get some REAL jeans! Seriously, a guy should not wear jeans that are tighter than the ones I'm wearing (and again cause I'm so passionate about this, I dislike baggy jeans too, like falling off your butt so guys must have jeans that FIT. Something Stacey and Clinton would agree with me on!)