MEGSMAKEUP! FACEBOOK! TWITTER! SOMETIMES YOU FORGET YOU PUT IT ALL OUT THERE!
Meg here doing just what I'm ASKING YOU ALL TO BE CAREFUL ABOUT.
SOCIAL MARKETING is the new hot thing. It maybe the most effective way to brand yourself. This isn't that relevant but it feels like it is. I was out to a restaurant with a group of wonderful women, one kept asking me "OMG how is the divorce going? Is Megken coming over? " I kept thinking in my head ( I like to drink a little) have I met this woman? How does she know this stuff? I forgot for a minute. I write my entire life. She reads this site and even though I think no one reads it. Well, people do. I answered every question. I told her every tid-bit then dessert came.
She was awesome! I mean it. A seriously awesome person! I just forget that sometimes I put everything out there. I write it in the comfort of my home and feel like I'm writing a diary to my best friend. I just like to share and be cathartic and open up. I just think we're all more alike then not so, if something has struck me a certain way then maybe I can feel the sisterhood that you've felt it too.
I was just told from my friend who is friends with Victoria Beckham that she said "You cannot read the stuff written about you on the internet. It's poison." I agree. I googled myself (oh come on, you have too) and this beautiful statement came up "A Psychopathic redneck Paris Hilton with small eyes and big fake boobies."
My eyes are big enough to see (with the help of my contacts) that I should have listened to Posh and not Googled myself.
I Love Facebook and Twitter but I have to tell you about my last experience. I have a bunch of cool friends on Facebook. I don't "know" them in person but they have "friended" me or I have "friended" them and seen that we have 25 (at least that's my rule if I can't remember meeting that person) friends in common.
This "friend" became increasingly aggressive so we "could talk" every night and Facebooking this request to me. I don't like to hurt anyone's feelings so I ignored it. It got to the point where he was sending me results on "Megan O'Brien-Los Angeles Phone Numbers" wanting to know which number he should dial. I have never met this man. Unfriend.
We all HAVE TO BE CAREFUL.
Twitter is amazing. I love ot! I have so many of my friends on Twitter! I can type "Hey, In West Hollywood-looking for fun~Friends twitter me and let's meet at XYZ for Happy Hour!"
I don't feel comfortable doing that anymore.
I have to backtrack, I have been seriously, dangerously stalked before in my life. It was terrifying. I was threatened daily (If I can't have you then no one will) and it was awful. I was living in NYC at the time and it was 1995 and after 6 months-they got him! By the by, he was a stranger that I had one conversation with. He became insanely smitten with my total come on of "Do I make a left here for Park Ave and 20th Street."
By saying "they got him" I mean the New York Mafia got him. The NYPD were ridiculously useless. It was 1995, there were no stalking laws. This crazy was writing me letters and the NYPD told me "Unless he physically hurts you we can't do anything. Call us once he physically hurts you." We have gone to his apt. 2x Miss O'Brien to ticket him. We can'y do anyhing more unless he causes you bodily harm." Yeah, it'll be easy to call you once I'm dead. Thanks. This was before O.J.
This is a true story.
I couldn't get rid of this guy. He sat in my lobby of my apt. building until the doormen would chase him out. He wrote me long, really insane letters on how we were "soulmates" (I asked him for directions)
Finally, I ventured out of my apartment for a big star-studded night out! I was sitting at this V.I.P table with a little old Italian man.
Meg: Hey there, listen oldie. You're adorable but you better stop smoking my ciggs.
Mr. G: O.K. I'll stop, what's a nice girl like you doing out so late? You like New York?
Meg: I have to get out of NYC, there's this crazy and I really think he's going to get me. I've had the police at his house twice. After they leave he calls my number and laughs and says that I can stop him.
Mr. G: The police don't help anybody
I swig a glass of wine. Take a puff of my cigg and excuse myself to the ladiesroom.
I am coming outside of the ladies room and my heart absolutely sinks, my stalker is staring at me.
I run back to my VIP table and grab my purse. I know he has me and that he is going to really hurt me. I was 18 years-old and knew as I know now, this lunatic was not stoppable.
Meg tears streaming down my face, shaky as I grab for my purse, I am terrified but know there isn't really anything I can do. I've called the police, they wont help me. I say "It was very nice to meet you. I have to go. That man I was telling you about is here and I have to get out of here."
Mr. G: Sit down. Breathe, you're O.K. I'm not going to let anything happen to you.
Now this is a really old man. I've called the police, I've had "big guys"-my 20 yr. old friends and none of them have had any luck. I just sort of accept that this nice old man is well-meaning but this stalker is definitely going to murder me.
All I remember is two large men in black suits that were sitting on both sides of my funny little old friend Mr. G took my stalker outside. My stalker never bothered me again.
Years later I had happened to turn on 20/20 and saw my old friend, he was talking crazy sitting in a bathrobe in Central Park. I guess they were planning "Insanity" for his trial. The NYPD did nothing to help me from this lunatic. The only man that did, that felt for me and asked nothing in return was Vincent Gigante
I was so shaken from everything that happened Mr. G would not let me take a cab. He stayed at the event and had his personal driver take me home with instructions "I smoked some of hers, get that kid a carton of ciggs."
I did get home safe and sound with my ciggs and I felt protected. There's something to be said for taking the law into your own hands.
Am I rare? How many of you out there were stalked by a crazy! It's more common then we admit!
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Thank you for sharing your story! That is incredibly scary, and I'm really glad that it was "taken care of".
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What a great story! Isn't it amazing how certain people show up for a cameo in your life and in a brief encounter, change its course? Meg's Makeup is the only online social site that I participate in and I feel wonderfully satisfied with you girls. My best friend Kim has been wanting me to join Facebook, but I just haven't had the time or energy. It is really easy to get carried away and get no work done!
Indi
My two new fav words are: restraint and discretion.I'll tell you why peeps...the world at large has become a pretty scary place with some pretty scary people in it.The "social networking sites" serve a place (I am on Facebook and enjoy keeping up with fam/friends on the surface) in our "need to know" society but it's also a public-forum for every sort of scum out there as Meg describes.Most probably aren't "ill-intended" but still,do you want to have to watch in your rear-view as you drive in fear??? I don't!Be mindful of the info you share and share only a bit of what you'd like...you'll be better off promise!SO glad "Mr. G" was there for you,it's alarming how "badly" it could have ended up and I am grateful to him for looking over you as well!Being stalked is horrible.I've only had it in small bites,however it has happened more than once but one culprit did end up hospitalized after some martial-arts "friends" came to my defense.It wasn't pretty but I was safe after that.Here in Texas.you can't file a restraining order against a stranger unless you experience "threats that include bodily injury..." Gulp.You have to be hurt first.People do NOT respect "boundaries" anymore: recently I had a guy I passed while walking into the grocery wait for me to COME OUT and then he tried to give me his card...I was more angry than anything but it made me realize that safety is a fragile game indeed! Set your boundaries VERY high!And peeps...while we're on the subject...for me PLEASE do NOT send those nekkid pics of yourself to a "possible hookup?????" I am so serious here it hurts.I recently had to support a friend whose daughter had a HORRIBLE experience due to such a choice.It's a wonder she's not dead but she is still locking herself in her home...she's a mess.It "hasn't changed" all that much,sorry!The "everyone does it" does NOT make it acceptable. That chit simply isn't cool and sets you up for so much pain it can't be imagined.It's skanky and you will probably get more than you bargin for if you do it,sorry.Be sane,smart,and self-sufficient...be a lady and always be sure someone has your back.Things can happen such as they did to Meg so randomly it's really wise to try and minimize your risks of being a target as much as you can.BTW: I am all for "taking the law" into one's own hands should you be able to and willing to pay the price if you're caught,LOL! I would be. :)Absolutely.
O my god thats 1 scary story ,your so lucky to have met vincent gigante and that he sorted him out for you.Like indi this is the only site I go on(met enough freaks in real life)and dont need to be attracting any more online,so Iavoid facebook,twitter etc like the plague.Its so scary that your just telling your friends where youl meet and giving some stalker all the info they need to follow you any where.I also dont post any photos at all for the same reason.My freaky stalker story is no where as scary as yours but he really freaked me out.One night I was out with the girls and this guy came over chatting to us,I told him I wasnt intrested and was getting back with an ex(true),he kept hanging round all night asking me to kiss him.I didnt.Anyway the next night when we came into the club he was snogging another girl andIwas like thank god.So he leaves the girl and shoots over,I told him go back to the other girl,im not intrested and he started hasseling my friends to explain to me blah blah,Eventually he walked off.My friend maria and I were walking home together and I heard someone calling my name,we turned round and it was the freak and about 4 friends being very loud and scary.He kept following us calling my name and making suggestions shall we say.I was never so glad to reach marias door(my own house was farther away).We ducked in and bolted the door and felt pretty safe,when suddenly we could hear shouting and banging at the door.One of marias house mates came down stairs and I told him what was going on.He opened the door really angry (his 6ft 4) and they chickened out and asked said they were looking for a guy and had the wrong house.The next day I came home from college and all my housemates were standing around reading a letter(it was really warped)and I knew who had sent it.The boys said to lure him into the house and they would tie him to a chair and kick the crap out of him.I was on my way home for the weekend and there he was again luckily one of the boys were with me,but I made up my mind there and then that I wasnt looking over my shoulder anymore and transered collages because there was just something very sinister about him. The really scary thing is he was a law student ,who probably would be defending some girl against a stalker and yet saw nothing wrong with being so intimadating.
PotionPrincess♥
I think I have a doozy for you ladies. Stylepapa and I had only been married a little over a year. He had this female patient that was very taken with him. She wanted him to star in some medical public service announcement video (I now know she also wanted him to star as her leading-man in the game of life.). She saw him as the only doctor that understood her, she was an incredibly difficult patient. John was one of many doctors that had tried to treat her various problems with very little success. In hindsight, I now see her as the crazy she always was.She would pop up at the strangest times and places. Once, while meeting John for a very spontaneous lunch, I looked out of the restaurant window and there she was, glaring at us, standing there watching us eat. That happened more than once. She used to show up at my mom's place of employment, all kinds of crazy. These are just a few of the incidents, I could go on and on. You get the idea.Do any of you believe that you will just know when you are in mortal danger? Whether it is God, or the whispering of an Angel. Or just that primal instinct we all have but usually ignore, lying dormant most of our lives. Well, I do believe in all of those things.It's 11:30 at night, several months into the stalking. I had just gone to bed, was on the verge of sleep and BOLTED straight up and out of bed. I had this terrible urge to check every window, door, closet and cupboard. I KNEW someone was coming for John and I. Previously, I had felt similar yet somehow, different urges other times when my sister had been in serious trouble so I knew never to ignore it. After going through the entire house securing our safety, I grabbed the biggest knife I could find and called my sister to make sure she was okay. When she answered the phone she was totally freaked. For some reason, I still hadn't told John how frightened I was yet, just that I was double-checking to make sure the house was locked up. Abbreviated version of the conversation:(******** is the symbol I will use instead of crazy stalker lady's name)My sister: Dawn, what the hell is going on? Who is ***********?Me: Why, what happened, are you okay?My sister: Yes, but the hospital just called. They said that ********* listed our dad as her emergency contact. They just said she was in a terrible car accident on the freeway near our home. She lost her leg and may not live through the night.Me: I could feel it, I knew something was on its' way to our house. Now, I had confirmation that it was her. She WAS on her way here, but the car accident stopped her.I believe with all of my being that, that woman was on her way to my house to cause serious harm or death. Think about it. She had listed my father as her emergency contact (She had to dig into some public record system to even discover my maiden name.). She'd stalked my mom at her place of employment. Constantly showing up whenever John and I were in public places. I think she was attempting to position herself as if she were me. She was attempting to take on my parents as her own and then inevitably trying to take John on as her own husband by eliminating me.I know that she was heading towards my home. That night about 30 minutes before her accident, as I checked and re-checked the locks, I literally felt like I was preparing for battle. Amazingly, I called my sister (she lived with my dad at the time) only minutes after the hospital had called his home. This woman's behavior was escalating, all of the signs were there. More and more frequent occurrences, more bizarre, bold and dangerous actions. I thank God for those warnings and even her accident. (Sorry, but I do. She intended harm but instead received it, and that is all on her.) We never heard from her again. It all ended that night. Thats the other interesting thing, I KNEW it was over. I could literally feel that the constant threat that had been ever-present for months was simply gone, done. In case any of you are wondering, this woman was not attractive. She had not been inappropriately lead on by John. I saw her on many occasions, she just gave everyone the creeps, sad but true. I only bring that up because if I were reading about this story I would wonder if that had been part of the problem. Full disclosure only at Meg's, right?Meg, Mr. G is one bad-ass man, it is so awesome that he was there for you that night. We are in the debt of the New York Mafia. If your reading this Mr. G, thank you for taking care of our girl. Whew! I am getting a little over-heated just thinking about that night. You are all right ladies. We can never be too careful. Meg's is the only place I fully participate in as well. Let's all be extra careful, you are all way too special to ever let your guard down in these circumstances. Love Too!
I once went on a brief date with someone who it turned out was moonlighting in/out of the closet. His 'special' friend, who was a drag queen no less, started stalking me, dressed as a woman. So to recap - the potential bf bats for both teams, he has a psycho drag queen in love with him, and I'm the unfortunate woman he asks out to allay questions about his sexuality. Mr 'in the closet' is so terrified of being outed (what would mummy think) that he denies all, and tells the drag queen never to come calling again. So she/he decides the next best thing is to stalk me for 'ruining' their star-crossed love. It got quite ugly until one day I found my stalker sitting outside my flat, crying his/her eyes out. He told me about his abusive child-hood, how shitty his life was, was an ass-hole 'mr in the closet' was to him, and begged me to lift the charges I'd laid. I mean it got so out of control that she/he was phoning my work and telling sundry people what a back-stabbing bitch I was. I was in a very corporate setting at the time, and it made me look really bad - I was called into meetings about the 'reputation of the company'.Anyway, I actually ended up speaking this guy for hours - and I have to say, nutty stalker thing aside, he had a raw deal in life. It didn't feel like he was putting it on - I saw a human being who was lonely, rejected and wracked with pain. I dropped the charges, and he dropped out of my life, but it was a hellish experience I'd prefer never to repeat.
Have to tell you, I'm on facebook, but very tech challenged. I've set my privacy settings so high no-one but my friends can find me. I was having difficulty finding someone who kept asking me to add her (really nice girl), so I procured the help of the 10 year old from next door. Next thing you know, the little &^*( has sent out 'friend requests' to everyone I've ever emailed, or whoever has emailed me. It was an absolute nightmare.....sorted now, but I had some sleepless nights....
I was 18 when my stalker showed up. We went on ONE hideously awkward date where he practically forced me to take pictures with him (at one of those mall places...who takes a date to a MALL) and then through a very uncomfortable goodbye at the door. I told him that I didn't really think we should see each other again and he grabbed me by the arm and told me "You're my girlfriend and you're not going to leave me." I was so scared and I just ran inside the house. He called me minutes later and when I didn't answer he came back to the house and pounded on the door for a half hour. I called the police. Small town police are a little more helpful and they ran him off. He followed me everywhere, tried to run off potential dates, sent me flowers and expensive gifts, I'm pretty sure he popped my tires and broke into my car, told everyone in town we were sleeping together. It was awful. Finally I got a few of my football player O linemen to deliver the message that he was to leave me alone. He finally did but being a small town I still saw him now and then. I hated it and he scared the hell out of me. He's still kind of nuts.
Love, hugs and shoes...Angie
O my god style mama someone was definately watching over you that night.Im glad were seeing you on here and not on an oprah special,just shows you women and men can be equally freaky.Cugo thats one freaky story,reminds me of a scary michael caine movie,It shows what a good person you are to take the time to talk to that troubled guy.sweetass girl he sounds like a right weirdo too,I mean your hardly going to like a guy whos making up stuff about you and stalking you,what goes through your head.
PotionPrincess♥
In my early twenties I had experiences with a couple of guys following me around. I was never threatened, but it did freak me out. An ex-boyfriend drove-by my house, dorm, and work for years even though he was married to someone else. Another guy, I don't even know who it was they always parked where I couldn't see their truck without going outside, would show up at my house at 5am on the weekends and blast his radio loud enough to wake me up. I never went outside when he did this. The only things that ended the drive- bys was moving into a house hidden from the street and on a dead end street so people couldn't drive by without being in direct view of the house. Then there was this guy that I went out with only once and who blew me off who started calling my home and both of my jobs at all hours and would just breathe on the phone and never say a word. He'd stay on the phone like that as long as I didn't hang up. I started placing him on hold when he called and would just leave him there until he finally hung up. This only stopped when I went up to him once at a festival and talked to him. I didn't even have to confront him, though he did act like he didn't know me even though he wouldn't let me walk away for a couple of minutes, but he never called again. I have been very vigilant about my privacy/safety ever since. Only a few of my family members and my closest friends no where I live. I do have a home phone, but it is only plugged in when I'm using it. No one is allowed to give out my cell number. It also helps to work someplace with restricted access and armed police officers.Working in the cj field, I've gotten some good tips from an investigator (who tracks online predators) for protecting yourself on social networking sites. Always keep your profile private and never place a photo of yourself on your profile that everyone, not just your friends, can view (like the profile photo on myspace). Never include photos of the exterior of your home or any photos with any types of identifying information that someone could use to locate you. Be careful about who you allow access to your page and watch out for who those people have as friends. Someone could gain access to you through someone else. Always listen to your gut. It is very unfortunate that women and some men have to deal with these experiences. Hopefully, the laws will catch up one day and protect all of us.
Thanks potionprincess, ME TOO!
Sweet ass girl I meant to say what goes through their heads(the psycos)-not yours ,typing error-I just noticed it now.Crime girl thats awful,lurking outside in his truck is hardly going to make you relaise his the one for you.
PotionPrincess♥
Ladies, these stories ALL were so scary - thank you for sharing your experiences with us. I would have been so terrified - to know these stories were your realities - that's just horrifying and the total helplessness so many of you experienced before your situations got resolved! I am so glad you all came out of these situations and hopefully your sharing them on this site will help even one of the women who read this website and keep her from doing something stupid or engaging with some type of freak. I'm also really glad some of you had outside help to persuade the whackjobs from getting in your space ever again. Again, huge respect to all of you for sharing these experiences.
Jeanasina!
Thank goodness all of y'all came through those experiences. Some don't. Unfortunately, we live in a dangerous world and it can't be stressed enough to be careful out there. Use common sense. If possible, don't go out alone. Never leave a drink unattended. Park under streetlights. Have your keys out and ready before you leave a building or your car. Don't be digging through your purse looking for your keys to get into your house or car. (I'm totally guilty of this! But I'm trying to change.) Someone could come up behind you. If you like to run alone in the evenings, don't have your iPod volume on high, it deadens your awareness of your surroundings. If you're going to the grocery store or out shopping, use a cart to get to your car, don't carry fifteen bags - keep your hands free. Be on your guard at all times. And listen to your intuition. If you get a bad feeling about someone lurking nearby, turn around and walk back inside. If you do get into trouble, have a plan to get out of it.
I took a self defense class last semester and absolutely loved it. I learned a ton of useful information: the most sensitive targets to hit, how to hit them for the most impact for the least amount of effort, easy ways to break holds, and other various ways to defend myself. And it was fun. I got a ton out of it. It turned out to be one of my favorite classes. I cannot recommend self defense classes enough. I hope I never need what I learned, but I feel a little more bold walking in a parking lot by myself after an evening class.
I love this site, but I think a lot of us put way too much info about ourselves on here. I can tell a lot about the ones who write the most, enough to convince people I am them. Their personal lives get wound in their reviews. I had gone back and removed a lot of my more personal writings a few weeks ago after seeing a television show on how these stalkers and identity theft people can glean so much information from these sites. It doesn't take much for them to know too much which can be big trouble for us. So if it looks like I am not writing as much, I am making a stand to write about makeup and only makeup.
Beste Hilsin
I'm definately not a facebook or twitter person. You are all right about the fact that's it's just too scary out there. I do belong to another makeup site but use an alias. It's not a big site and we have the same people who post on there all the time and monitors. We even said gift packages to each other at Christmas. I had to leave my corporate admin. job in a hurry in a 2007 because of the mail room guy who started being excessively friendly to me. I know I had to deal with him everyday on a business basis as he would come to my desk for signatures. I just thought he was being friendly and everyone else seemed to like him and I never heard anything bad about him. He was from El Salvador so that tells you it's just a different culture. He asked me to go out for a drink after work and I because I knew from some company records that he was married I said I don't go out for drinks with married men after work (or even single guys for that matter). I said do you understand that and he said he did. But he continued to talk to me and I figured I'm at work I'll just go with the flow. He even asked if he would be able to come to my house so that I could teach him English! What???? I live with my parents and I said my parents would be there and he said Oh! I want to meet your parents! I would talk to him in the break area if I saw him but nobody was around one day and he inappropriately tried to touch me. I said WHAT ARE YOU DOING!!! He said I want to go in! After that I knew I had to look for a new job and get the heck out of that company!! The straw that broke the camel's back was when he called me on the phone at my desk and asked me how everything was. I answered forcefully WHY!! Don't call me downstairs on break anymore!! I don't want your kind of friendship! HEY! I have to go! My boss is here and then he said have a nice day and I hung up!!!!! He never called again but I definately had to find another job because I never wanted to have him near me again!!By the way I think this all started because I gave the jerk a candy bar at Christmas that I got from a friend in Australia. I was just showing my appreciation for all he did for me during the work year. Delivering boxes, moving stuff, etc. Well, before Valentines Day I saw him in the cafe and he reminded me that it was V day.....???? He said I hope I can maybe get a kiss or hug...I said you will have to just wait and see. Oh Vey! Stupid me gave him a candy bar to shut him up. This didn't help and one day he was delivering stuff to my storage room and put his arms out for a hug. Again, me not thinking wisely hugged the jerk - thinking here's your hug now get out of here. He then proceeded to tell me that's not enough. I told him I had morals and values and from now on no more hugs and keep your hands to yourself. I told him about my Mom and he would always ask about when she was going for her surgery and I figured he was just being nice. I would see him on my break and didn't want to avoid him and create conflict so I would say Hi etc. One day in the cafe he bluntly came out and said he wanted to have sex with me. I said that's for marriage and I would never do anything like that. I don't want no disease. He said I have no disease and I'll use protection. What a crazy idiot!! Not even ashamed to say those types of things to someone at work.Well, my job involved going to the mailroom once a week for another co-worker and I told her I'm not going to the mailroom and that's my perogative. She said I can't believe your not going to do what your boss is telling you to do!!Funny part is this guy worked there from 2003 and never showed any inappropriateness and all this started from that Christmas of 2006. My Mom had to have a knee replacement and so I went out on a leave at this very time that all this bad stuff was happening. Both my parents knew about it and I was afraid to report to anybody at work. I managed to find a new job during all this and never went back after my leave. I know the good Lord was watching over me and protecting me from this devil!!!I am so glad I never played tennis with him, take him for a ride in my new car or went anywhere with him. I never in my life met someone so persistent to have a moment with me as he quoted. Simply disgusting!!!!We have to protect our hearts, minds, and bodies in this world of crazies!!!PS: I heard on the radio last week that they are actually giving courses to people to learn how to use facebook, twitter etc. It's definately not for me!!!!
Sounds scary. I don't have a Facebook or Twitter account.Just Myspace and I hardly use that.
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This is absolutely HORRIFYING!! i am so sorry this happened, it is hard to remeber not everyone out there is good. the world is filled wiht bad people too, how sad it is. I keep tryingto tell my 3 little sisters about all this and they never seem to see any bad in anyone (God bless their innocense) but I hope they realise that not everyone can be trusted.
j.baby
I've had a few stalkers when I was a child. It wasn't that bad, because they were just little boys my age that were infatuated with me, and wouldn't leave me alone for anything. They were constantly over my house, my mother would let them in, and they would try and spend as much time with me as they could, regardless of the fact that I didn't even like boys at the time nor did I want to spend hours with them. In my adult life I have had one adult stalker. It was more via phone and myspace, but it was still very scary. I had been talking to this guy on myspace for a while, as I had done many times before. And I eventually gave this guy my number. He was a college student a year younger then me, and seemed like a great guy. He asked me out to the movies one night. I said I could probably go, but I wasn't sure yet. I found out I had something important for school to finish, so I texted him and said that I had to finish something for school, and that maybe we could catch a movie some other time. Then he went crazy. He called me and was being very whiny, aggressive, and verbally attacking me, and making me feel so bad about not seeing a movie with him. He showed his true colors during this phone call, and showed how violent and angry of a person he could be. I ended up hanging up with him, because he was demeaning me and being verbally violent with me on the phone. Needless to say, I didn't answer any more of his phone calls. But he did leave me some quite violent messages and scary messages. One time he left me a message where he had disguised his voice as a angy robot or something. It was hard to describe. Think back to home alone the movie, when the kid is playing that movie and, holds the phone up, and then the guy hears "I'm going to f**** kill you, or whatever. Well it sounded like a voice similar to that. It was very scary. It went on for about a year, and then thankfully he stopped calling me.
that's why on facebook i dont add anyone i dont know ...to me it doesnt matter how many friends we have in common bcuz i have friends who will add the world if u let them...
That's a scary story...I'm terrified of people stalking me because I know people will go to extreme lengths when they reach that level of obsession! Thankfully I have never been seriously stalked or anything. I'm always consciencious of being careful and preserving SOME degree of anonymity/privacy in my online profiles (fb, Twitter, etc). But thanks for sharing this, I'm sure there are going to be people that will be moved by this to change their ways.
That's why I use a pseudonym (several), don't put many full-face and *no* full-body photos on the internet, and fudge my age and location. There are a few different variations, and none of them are quite accurate.
I know it's highly unlikely that I'll be stalked by some random person who finds me on the internet. It's even rather unlikely that someone will, say, grab my photos and use them on a dating site. (I'm just not that gorgeous.) But if someone used my photos on their online profile somewhere and was talking about illegal activities, I could potentially get the negative fallout for it - in future job interviews, in future situations meeting people, what have you. Just a little caution is never a bad thing.
I am also not on Facebook, MySpace, Bebo, or most similar sites. I just don't care to give a major corporation that much data about myself or my habits. (For much the same reason, I'm tempted to occasionally do searches for phrases like 'consensual badger porn' or 'naked poodle frogs' just to really mess up the search engines.)
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that's so crazy! i had something kinda of strange like that happen someone i ran into one night clubbing here in vegas with friends was like are you that girl on myspace and said my myspace name and i'm like oh yeah and smiled. we took pics had some drinks danced and all it was cool than my friends and i left to another club. i swear the next 3 clubs we went to he and his friends were there following us. it was creepy. i got tons of messages and he found my other pages online i had to block him all over the place.
just another note i wanted to put in. i just watched "hard candy" and if you have not seen it, grab it. just do not watch with the weak stomach friends or children. it tells about internet stalkers and pedifiles. terribly sad. but so realistic!
j.baby
Thankfully, I haven't been stalked - not beyond a persistent person at a bar, for that evening only when younger. I am glad all you all's stories ended well.
Aw! You okay? I know how scary that can be (I had someone named Max who would not leave me alone). The end sounds more like a movie than a story, so funny! I'm glad 'they' got him.
That is so scary...I can't even imagine.It pisses me off that the police weren't "able to do anything". That's really ridiculous. I'm glad you accidentally ran into someone who was able to get rid of him for you. That was pretty lucky on your part!Luckily, I haven't ever had any problems like this, and hopefully I don't ever get any.
I fell very fortunate to say that I've never had anything like that happen to me...just reading about what has happened to you scares me, the fact that the police wouldn't help really makes me mad
That is a scary story! I will have to recheck my privacy settings again!
I always get wierd messages from people I dont even know! I hate it... I even have on most my pages... If I dont know you... Dont bother! But still.Very real story, thanks for sharing!
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Oh Meg! I am so sorry that happened to you. I was scared myself just reading it. It seems crazier and scarier things are happening to all walks of life more and more these days. I applaud Mr. G for saving you. That is what he did...he saved you. I have never been stalked personally. However, you know that feeling you get walking to your car and you just know someone is watching you....I have had that feeling. As in flirty guys in the supermarket following me and looking and when I pay and leave I know they are still watching. That's scary. I think most women have had that happen to them at least once. Creepy!
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-Coco Chanel
I stopped writing on my blog because it was a little scary. During the election I was writing a lot about politics and I had the government reading my blog regularly. The funny thing is that I started my blog to keep a stalker at bay. It was a girl that I used to be friends with but couldn't stand anymore and I started the blog so that she could just read about me and wouldn't contact me anymore.
it hasnt happened to me but i dont like to post alot of stuff about my self on the internet
People you meet online can be creepy and you have to be careful. Ironically, I don't think I have had any stalker experiences from anyone I met online. People who have got obsessed with me or stalked me were people I met in person. A guy I met at the mall one time I hit it off with really good with at first. When I told him I had a new boyfriend he started calling me all the time, walking by the place I worked, leaving creepy voicemails and IMs. He wouldn't leave me alone for a long time. I think I seen him at the mall again the other day when I went with my parents. He had a name tag (same name) and looked like him, but if it was him he put on quite a bit of weight. It creeped me out! Be careful trying to judge someone's character online or off. People aren't always what they seem. On a happier note I met one of my very best friends online. He was just like I expected from our IMs. Some people are really themselves online and when you meet them in person and some people aren't who they seem to be when you first meet them either online or in person. Be careful.
Oh my God.. reading through this certainly was eye-opening Meg! I started off thinking it would be an nice little titter about social networking and before I knew it I was reaching for the popcorn*!!I can't imagine how I would have reacted at the tender age of 18 if I were in a similar situation. I'm just so thankful that the kindly old man went slightly out of his way to protect and help such a wonderful young lady.Your story is so frightening. I hope to never experience anything like this in my lifetime. ♥*No offence indended, it was just incredible to read about such a frightening and dramatic real-life situation!
so scary! i was friends with a boy and when he moved a few hours away he kept phonong and texting, if i didnt text back he would keep texting "whats wrong" why arent you talking to me" etc and phonong and judt breathing down the phone, i phoned him and told him to stop the stupid phonecalls he said it want him-the phonecalls stopped!we stayed kind of "mates" in contact through text or face book occasionly and when i told him i was engaged and pregnant he said " i wish it was with me i love you, i always will etc etc!"wierdos!stylemama your story sounds like a film! and a very scary one at that! we have to be so careful-lots of crazy people out there!
i just rechecked my facebook privacy settings! lol! still private and for friends only, phew! ;)
omg, that is so scary! I have had weirdos stalk me in real life, not over the internet yet. But I am very careful and hide most of my life from the internet (and yup I have a facebook and twitter account). I have even had ex-employees that I fired stalk me, I had to change my phone number! The world is kinda scary, I am always very cautious with anything I do. thanks for sharing your story. :)
omg its soo scary, i used to think i may be a bit too paranoid but i see that its reasonable with the realities out there. I also watch a bit too much dateline.
I just cant get into the whole social networking arena. I dont really understand it personally. Lol but I laugh at the pointless comments i read sometimes. I understand it for purposes of maybe getting back in touch with old friends youve lost contact with... but for meeting people? hmm im not convinced...
Wow, Meg. Reading about the stalking sent chills down my spine. I can't imagine how your life was at that time. I do worry about people who put wayyy too much info on their profiles, especially those who don't lock their profiles from the eyes of strangers. Scary, scary world out there.
yes we all need to be careful I have had a few stalkers on these networking sites. I always make sure to only add close friends and family and to keep all my pages private!
Suzanne Bailey :)
Yeah, I've been through the whole stalker thing- dude even tried to climb under my garage while I was sleeping!!! I have no idea what he was trying to do, I mean, after he got under what was he trying to accomplish? I've since moved, and he's never caught up to me again thank goodness!
oh wow, i'm sorry to hear that such a horrible thing happened to you. i totally know how you feel :(
xoxo
It's so true that we have to careful. The only way to protect ourselves is to use pseudonyms unassociated with a known e-mail attached to our names or stay off the internet all together.
wow this is soo scary :[
Wow Meg, I can't believe this has happened to you. It just goes to show you how scary people can be. This kind of thing has never happened o me (thank god) and I am very careful. I don't even have a my space or facebook, or Twitter. Mostly because I don't want tto have to spend the extra time updating it. I'm glad you got out of that situation.
wow those are some scary stories... :( im so glad you all are ok and hopefully nothing like this will ever happen to any of us :) yeah, we all need to be more careful with what we post in this day and age, there are creepers everywhere.
I am a strong believer in networking too. I think that you can get a lot of great opportunities. Networking and helping others and they will in return help you!
Oh wow has anyone told you have an amazing ability to tell a story..you think about writing a novel or something! no joke. I think police and law enforcement officers are bound by laws that aren't exactly there to "protect" ppl. we sometimes find ourselves having to choose between waiting for something bad to happen or "dealing" with the situation ourselves!
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GO MR. G!
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