THE INFORMATION HIGHWAY CAN LEAD YOU INTO A PILE-UP!
Meg here! Boy oh boy! Do I have a topic I want to share with all of you. I am so curious to hear your thoughts on this one! This has nothing to do with make-up but more on relationships and how the internet has affected your actions or whether or not you would date a guy after you have Googled him.
Alright, here it is, I've had a shit year. I'm getting divorced, I've had dates that left much to be desired and before New Year's I wasn't expecting anything. I wasn't even thinking a peck on the cheek before the ball drop (no pun intended).
Ken and I met at a Christmas party. We laughed together for a few days. By day 5 I was moved in ( I mean I got space in the closet, met the parents and had my own underwear drawer) but kept my own residence as well. Momma didn't raise no fool :) I'm giddy, I'm so happy, everything is rainbows and unicorns! Then I Google him!
Lydia my roomie wants to know about this man I'm smitten with. She heard fantastic things on the film he directed. She was not able to make the screening or the awards party. I said "Lydia, don't worry, I'm sure there are some clips on the internet.
I saw a 1 minute clip on the internet of one of Ken's movies So wonderful see it here! Then I saw something else, I saw something that made me feel sick. On the same Google page that listed Ken's accolades It also named him with every lie under the sun on a"womens site"and then claimed he was a paedophile. I believe the quote I read about my sweetheart was "He likes to have sex with under-age boys and girls! Not to make light of these disgusting charges, but, umm, Ken doesn't even really like kids! So I know who has posted these awful lies. She admitted it to me on the phone and will not remove them. She wrote this stuff about Ken anonymously. She gets to paint him as a paedophile and make the heinous charge anonymous? I don't think so. At least put your name to your accusation. In America we have the right to face our accusers. The internet is suppose to be a place to learn---not a place to slander.
After many conversations with this "lady" where I have begged repeatedly to remove the slander against Ken (and she refuses) we have gone to a lawyer.. She will be served this week.
Can you imagine? Imagine if you Googled your name and "Paedophile" came up describing you from someone that had sour grapes over you?
I'm very upset by this! What do you ladies think? Would you ever go to the internet to trash someone? What if someone wrote you were a Whore? Thief? Liar? and posted anonymously? What would you do??
I thought about posting her picture and then I realized I was the bigger person. Here's me finally happy! I love my Ken !
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USC! Love him already! Fight on!
All the above advice and love are true, Meg. You are a wonderful person with good instincts. This hussy is apparently eaten up with hate. You look so happy and beautiful and I wish you all the best with Ken. And, btw, The Usual Suspects is in my top 5 movies of all time!
Carole
Ok, I'm a certified lurker, but enough is enough. Sue her ass, and remember what goes around comes around. And Meg and Ken, please remember everything the byutch says reflects horribly on her, and not at all on you (at least as far as all sane, decent people go). If you are going to make allegations like this, then don't do it anonymously, you coward.This is despicable conduct, and the rest of us are all potential victims. We need to stand up and show that this kind of behavior will not be tolerated. I may be far away, but you have my FULL support.
Rie
First of all let me say congratulations! You deserve it all and more. Now onto the topic at hand. I have personal experience with this. My boyfriend was a graduate student at my college while I was there and while there he taught a class that I took. I immediately decided I was in love with him and stalked him throughout the semester. However he did NOTHING until the semester was over, including the final and entering grades. We got together and it has been perfect ever since and we spent every single second together. However I was not the only girl in the class who had a crush on him and one day I went to look at myspace ratemyprofessor where some bitter angry girl (he suspects an ex-gf, I think it might be someone else in the class who liked him who he didn't like) was writing all kinds of horrible slander about him serially dating students from the class and that they "know for a fact he changed her grade after they slept together." I was floored. First off...we also moved in together and I literally spent EVERY SINGLE SECOND of that summer with him so I know for an absolute fact that he did not see anyone else. Plus he is the sweetest, most sensitive, most non-ladies man alive. And also...we did not even get together until after grades were posted...and did not sleep together for many many months. So I was shocked that someone would blatantly lie. But I do admit that even though I KNEW the quality of the person I was with...I felt that unpleasant doubt enter my mind. And that was awful and not fair to him. And my poor boyfriend was devastated because like I said he is extremely sensitive. People who are cowards and post anonymously on the internet need serious help. Sorry for the long rant...but I feel you Meg!
Oh Meg, I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I understand completely what it feels like- my mother has kleptomania (she's been clinically diagnosed and is undergoing therapy) and was caught the summer before my senior year. Well, the woman who owned the store tackled my mother and repeatedly slammed her face into the ground, while my mother tried to say "stop, I have a heart problem". We thought, after bailing her out of jail, things would just be quiet. Unfortunately, the store owner called the newspaper and told the reporters slanderous lies, like my mother had tried to choke her (though there were no bruises found on her at all). To make matters worse, some childish kid at my high school posted it on his myspace and I was accused, throughout the rest of the year, of stealing things. All I can say is what goes around comes around, and I am here for you- we all are. The lady who slandered my mother never got comeuppance from us, but two years later she's gone bankrupt and her store has closed. Another thing- I know how it feels to fall in love quickly! I was pretty much smitten with my boy after the first date- and it scared me so much I didn't call him for a month after. Now we're approaching the one-year mark, and we couldn't be happier- and I wish you all the luck in the world. I just really hope the suing is worth it. I don't disagree with you pressing charges, but sometimes court cases like that can take the life out of people! Though, Meg, you have more than enough spirit- I doubt anyone could bring you down! :)
Meg, first of all let me say that I am happy for your magical rainbows and unicorns! Many glitterful warm fuzzies unto you and your new man!Now then, about the wench. ;)It is a sad thing that where there is great good there is great evil--the internet primarily being a popular tool used for both. It upsets me just how much a person will go to, how much preciouse time they are willing to waste of their own lives just to slander another individual. If it were me, I would most likely be doing just what you are now, good on ya!I hope everything turns out well!
Okay..first of all,are you kidding me? "Usual Suspects" is one of THE best movies EVER,I watch it whenever it's on,LOL and I'm a total movie nut,everone needs to see "The Wrestler",BTW. Not only is your man an adorable snuggy-bear of love,he's obviously brilliant,hard-working,creative,and has exqusite taste in women,you look DIVINE in that pic girl! I love that he makes you laugh because that IS what really counts!MySpace is a freakshow of a place,sorry...I much prefer the fun/casual and controlable "Facebook" when I feel the urge to waste time:write to the "powers" ate MySpace and let them know what's she'd done,they won't take it lightly,especially since he's a respected person and it's a vile accusation.It's one thing to call a man and a**ho*e or the like,it's really crossing the line when you accuse his moral fiber in the most henious way possible.I abhor and despise child abuse of any kind and I'm sure he does as well.For this women to be allowed free-reign and to continue her slander is unacceptable,sorry...I agree with the "ignore it" only to a certain point,but it's a career at stake,sorry...one wrong move in Hellywood and you are off the list.The guy who did the "Jeepers Creepers" movies (my friend played the "Creeper...)has a horrible rep and can't get a movie made now. No one deserves such a fate without DAMN good reason with tangile proof to back it up.Sorry,I'd proceed with the serving of papers to her if for no other reason than to let her know it WILL NOT continue to be tolerated.Hit her hard,you have already tried being a lady and a real lady always knows when to put out the big guns.Living well IS the best revenge but sometimes,you also have to resort to methods of self-preservation in order to insure your own safety and peace of mind...if she'd do THIS chit,where might it end?There are some very sick people out there and yes,the internet can allow them to flourish.Wishing you and Ken ONLY wonderful times together and I am sick at heart that you are suffering this fool...it's all well and good to "turn a cheek" but this is going too far IMO.People will not forgive this sin.Karma can be a real BITCH and I absolutely believe she will get hers...Sending you love and someday,I'd like YOU to post YOUR beauty routine because in spite of a bad year,a crappy divorce,and all the drama currently,you just get more gorgeous all the time...:)
Meg: I will talk to you as if you were my sister and she knows to take my advice! First, I am so glad you met someone to live, laugh and love with. I believe in love at first site as I am married to mine for 23 years. Second, kindly ask the lady to remove the trash but please don't waste money and time on her. That gives her more to write about. Old news dies fast. Third and this is for all women. Trust but verify. By this I mean trust him, you have no reason not to, but....if something should ever look funky then verify. Truthfully, I don't think you will have to worry about that. And fourth. Take things slow and savor the tantalizing dance of slowly getting to know each other. Think of it as a long long meal where you slowly feed each other and finish it with chocolate covered strawberries. Listen to smooth jazz and dance slowly to the new excitement of a new man. Believe me, you will be very very happy.Meg...we are happy for you.
Beste Hilsin
OMG Meg! I'm so happy for you :) But I can't believe this! The internet really can be a bad thing sometimes. I hope that evil woman gets what she deserves. I'm so glad you posted that picture because you look gorgeous and he looks pretty damn fine! Good luck and keep us posted!
Meg, my late mother Genya had an expression: Just Ig-A-Nore her. Sue if it makes you feel better, but you may find that the time and energy you expend on such an unworthy object (and she doesn't deserve to be termed anything other, certainly not a subject!) is soul-diminishing. Much better to spend the time and energy on being good to each other, and nurturing a healthy respect for all friends worthy. Mazel tov to you both -- anything to get you out of that cold, dreary house with the geriatric dogs!
Some people are screwed up they simply can't bear to think of someone else being happy-let alone in love. Remember, this is all on her, her problems, her sad life, her ugliness. I know what it feels like to go through the whole awful litigation process. NOT FUN. The details of my situation were a bit different but like you we had the truth and a moral obligation to go through the entire legal process. It had to be done. My only REGRET, we let it totally consume our lives. My advice to you, do not let her in. Do not allow her to accomplish what she has set out to do. Fight this, but protect your relationship and your time together from all of the ugliness that this will inevitably dredge up. You know the truth, let your lawyer do what you have paid her to do. This wretch would love to take away as much joy from the two of you as possible. She is aggressively trying to manipulate you into giving your happiness away. Well too bad, she can't touch it. Your strength will be tested, but that is o.k.. You are Meg, enough said.
Meg,first and foremost, grab happiness while you can. Life comes with no gaurentees, happiness is a blessing. If you love Ken and he loves you, then grab ahold and don't let go. The Sour grapes chick is using words, and while words, especially gossip, is Murder by mouth, you're assasinating someones character, they're just words. Don't let words ruin your happiness, you're better then that. Last but certainly not least, this chick that is slandering your man has a little thing called KARMA to deal with. Karma is an interesting thing, usually you go thru what you dish out magnified by 10. For people who read the bible and don't believe in Karma the scriptures say "reap what you sow". This sour grapes chick is going to get hers, big time. Keep you and your man surrounded by love, everything else will come out in the wash. Namaste.
Alas Meg...It’s like Snow White and her lovely prince - finding that special something when they are together - experiencing much joy, fun, warmth and magic together and then out in the Dark Netherlands there lurks the witch with the poisonous apple - wanting the prince to herself - seeking to inflict evil on that which she cannot have. Two words...Vengeful Hag! I have goggled people I have dated and you do learn things and get to see things about them if they have any notoriety at all! I actually saw that in a movie; that you should ‘google’ people and so I have probably goggled the name of everybody I ever knew just because I would have never thought to do that before I saw the movie! Your man’s googlizations have produced nothing but good to see (I also LOOOOOOOOOVED The Usual Suspects) one of the best films ever! If you goggle his image you get to look right into his warm brown eyes and see what you see when YOU are eye to eye just before the two of you have a kissing melt down! LOL! Meg if you are happy, if your heart believes in the man you are with, if you feel on the inside what is reflected in your photo with Ken (you look radiantly content and happy in this shot) keep going and let your feelings soar. View this insecure hagstress as a fly in the background that may keep circling in an annoying distant buzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzing sort of fashion but that dirty little fly will one day land in her own filthy ointment and get stuck there and eventually cease to buzz (at least nobody will hear her annoying chatter) any longer. I am truly happy for you Meg - keep letting the sun shine in on your heart! I once figured out that when somebody holds anger or hate or vengeance in their heart, THEY ARE THE ones that suffer and FEEL that horrible blackness in their hearts and lives day after day after day while the people they are trying to destroy go on with their lives and a great deal of the time they are actually having good days, happy moments, and living their lives! The person who carries hate is the person who experiences the results of their hate even if they direct it at another. This vengeful woman will experience a black heart and one can only imagine how awful that must feel! Nobody goes towards darkness - people gravitate towards light and joy and YOU dear Meg are the picture of light and joy right now! Run with it!
Jeanasina!
You ladies are flipping fantastic! Really such an amazing bunch of women!! I am absolutely floored by all of your beautiful wishes and fabulous advice! Wow, this is a hot topic, we even had some new lurkers post!! POST POST POST NEWBIES AND WELCOME!!I showed Ken the comments and he was like "How did you find all these amazing women?" I am completely in awe on what compassionate, empathetic and genius girlpower that sounds off here. I think I maybe just about the luckiest chick on the planet. I love you so much! THANK-YOU!!!!
Horrible! I am glad you are bringing the law into this, that is the right thing to do! All the best to you and Ken =)
I can't believe I failed to be a raving nerd fan. The Usual Suspects...top 10movies EVER (Seven also with Kevin Spacey). I was in a theater FULL of peoplewhen i went to go see it...final scene..I was JUMPING up and screaming NO WAY!Movies never fool me...this one got over on me big time. Absolute friggin' amazing genius. Sorry...had to gush.
Love, hugs and shoes...Angie
SO glad y'all are "gushers" about "Usual Suspects" as well!!! When he's sitting there talking to Chaz Palmenteri (sp) at the end...O....M....G...And you get Gabriel Byrne and Benicio Del Torro for eyecandy! You get to talk about this flic with Ken for hours girl...that's HOT!!! :)Also agree that "Seven" is one of the best.We can be "nerd fans" and beautiful too,right? ;)
First off...congrats on the new relationship and I wish nothing but happinessto my beautiful internet friend. Second...I agree with everything everyone saidso I won't repeat. Third and most important...Meg, if I remember properly backa few years ago you mentioned an experience that you had as a young girl. I hadsomething similar that went on almost weekly for 5 years between the age of 5 and 10.I survived and if there is anything a girl who has been through this kind of experience can attest its that we develop a kind of "sixth sense" about men whowill do these types of things to children. I'd bet my life on it. I can justshake hands with a guy and if the hair on the back of my neck stands up I justKNOW he's the kind of man who would sexually abuse a child. Trust in your owninstincts and how you feel about this man. Love and giddiness aside...what doesyour GUT tell you about him as a human being? Obviously it tells you he is NOTa pedophile or you would have never gone out with him. I'm not saying there aren't men out there who are master manipulators and are still capable...I'm just saying that I personally have VERY good instincts honed over years of painthat can sniff out a perve with one touch of the skin. Don't look to Ken or theinternet for answers...trust in yourself. You will never let YOU down! All mylove sweet Meg...Angie
Love, hugs and shoes...Angie
She is not a "lady" at all. She is the epitome of losery. You are definelty the bigger woman in this. You are so right about the internet to be a place fr learning and exploration NOT trashing anonymously. Some relationships will end on a sour note, but BY NO MEANS is that any reason to make such horrific allegations on someone. You are doing the right thing about serving her. This should be a wake-up call for the old hag.I was once ask in a pageant....."Describe for me the difference between a woman and a lady?" .... The Answer: A woman is someone a man dates and a lady is someone he marries! ----YOU, Meg, are the LADY here!! Go-getter!I love you ..... You look so pretty in this picture!
A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.
-Coco Chanel
Oh wow. It wasn't on dontdatehimgirl.com was it? That's crazy. I have Googled dates and never found such an extreme accusation, but I have found insights to their personality that have completely turned me off.
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kindaa stalker-ish ;D