MONDAYS WITH MEG!
Meg here back from the computer hospital. My laptop flatlined on me last night and I just got it fixed. The good news is I have a brand new one coming to me Thursday so all is well!
I guess its spring, or the move, or the fact that I have to go through all of my stuff and decide what I really want and need. What I am just somehow emotionally tied to that I probablly wouldn't miss if I just let it go. My brains been jumping around a bit and I keep replaying choices I've made in my life and then I think of this story. A woman was unhappy in the career she had for the last 20 years so she came home and announced to her husband "I'm going to become a lawyer! Her husband just shook his head and rolled his eyes and said "You're going to be 50 years old before you can even start to practice law.. The woman just looked at him and said "I'm going to be 50 years old anyway. Might as well be 50 years old and start my new career."
Duh, right? I mean that logic is so easy to understand and yet so hard for us to apply. I'm not looking to be an attorney but I am looking to follow through on opportunities that have presented themselves to me that I just let fall by the wayside. I guess I can't fail if I don't try, I never use to feel that way but I think I have been a bit in the dumps the last year or so and developed an Eeyore complex. I am sending Eeyore to the glue factory and am really going to concentrate on putting myself out there as much as possible. I can't succeed if I don't try is my new mantra!
If you only look as good as you feel then I have not been living up to the ideal beauty regimen!
I'm looking for a little guidance, you ladies always know whats best to put on our faces so I'm hoping you will let me know what you're secret is for a little extra spring in your step.
Should I buy an Ipod and program it with upbeat songs? Should I tape YOU ARE FABULOUS! to my mirror? What are little tricks you have (I know you have them) that help you keep on plugging? I'll be back with our normal order of business tommorrow but I was hoping you ladies had some advice on how to cultivate better energy! Love you and thank-you! Meg
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I know my adult life is rather young (but you aren't really that much older than me Meg...). But I have the best trick to keep yourself from falling into the ditch of feeling lonely/like a loser/sorry for yourself. Make plants. If you busy yourself making yourself busy and have things to lookforward to, everything begins to speed up (in a good way)! Breaking your life up in to smaller, manageable pieces is my advice. Today, I clean the house. Wednesday, I'm going to that concert for a little while. Thursday is Chili's thursday (2 for 1!). Friday is a crawfish boil...you get the idea. That way there's a little satisfaction each day and you get those "accomplishment endorphins" as well. If all else fails, you have my phone number. You're welcome to call me and whine!
Katie
Eeyore to the glue factory! One thing I try to do is show gratitude. Every morning reach up and stretch and thank your higher power for your life and a new day. Recently I read about and have been practicing deep breathing to maximize my oxygen intake and re-fuel my brain and body. During pregnancy and childbirth, deep breathing helped to reduce my pain and help me relax. Whenever I am overly stressed or lacking energy, I remind myself to breathe. It is such a simple thing, but I think it really helps. Big hugs Meg! :) 38
Darling Meg-- I love music, and I love dancing. I'm very partial to your Ipod and upbeat music idea. I have playlists of songs that make me happy and that I can dance to. I listen to music while I shower and while I get ready every morning. It really helps get the day started right. Plus, I always figure that if I dance around my bathroom a bit while I'm doing my hair and makeup, I'm getting a mini-workout, which means endorphins! (I don't think those come in mini size though. Haha)All I can tell you is what works for me and hope that it works for you too. If not, you have hundreds of other ladies with other brilliant ideas. We all love you and want you to be smiling!
Meg - here are some things that I do to lift myself out of a funk. First, deep breaths! Secondly, I try to do something little that will make me happy - go see a happy/silly movie, buy flowers (seeing beautiful blooms always uplifts me), get a manicure/pedicure, take a long walk, call or make plans with a friend that will cheer me up, or take a road trip to somewhere on the ocean. If there is something or someone that is contributing to my funk, I try to keep a safe distance until I feel better. Also, I've been staying away from TV (especially the news!) -- just way too depressing. I hope you feel better my dear - love ya!
When I am sad, or going through rough times. I am gently reminded of how much I am loved and how much value has been placed on me by our Creator. I am also going to tell you that God is no respecter of persons either.. meaning this goes for you too! One of my favorite scriptures is found in Lamentations 3:22-24. It reads, "The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases, his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is thy Faithfulness. "The LORD is my portion," says my soul, "therefore I will hope in him." My point is that, there is amazing grace and hope to be found and it’s there for us always. Man will fail you and not live up to their word constantly, but He cannot and will not ever leave nor forsake you. So meditate on just how dang special you are for a minute here and I assure you, you will begin to see clearer than ever! Blessings!
*that's plans. Not plants.
Katie
Meg -- there are a few things that make me really happy and they make me forget about everything else. I don't watch a lotof TV, but I allow myself to get hooked on some shows and I look forward to watching them each week. I know you already do this, but watch The Office. Curb Your Enthusiam is another that I could watch re-runs of over and over. Itjust makes you laugh. Reading a lot of posts above, there are so many that I realize make me happy too. Exercise makesme happy (even though I don't realize it), reading makes me happy (current reading Eat, Love, Pray), plans make mehappy (I've never thought about it, but when me and my daughter have plans, we look forward to them). Changing diapersdoesn't make me happy and that's what I have to go do now!!!
Hey Meg! I'm so sorry to hear you have been down in the dumps! You have to embrace this new phase of your life and just start over! Be grateful for all the little things in life! I've been married for almost 18 years and what helps me stay energized is weekend getaways--alone or with girlfriends! I just got back last night from 3 nights in Las Vegas with about 8 girlfriends. We come from all over-I'm in San Francisco, some are in So. Cal., some in Idaho. Its just so refreshing to catch up and get all glam and paint the town red. Being 41 and having 27 year old "boys" checking me out is very uplifting! :) Anyway, get to know yourself again (as a single woman!) and then when you're ready, start dating! Oh, how fun! Best of luck!Shelley
I simply tell myself that I am loved, it always works
O i feel what you are going through Meg. I am graduating from college in May and have spent the past few weeks filled with regrets. Why didn't I apply for more internships, why didn't I make more friends, why didn't I get to know my professors more, why didn't I take advantage of all the opportunities I had etc etc. I was always super involved in everything in high school and I felt sort of like I lost myself in college. But what I have been doing that has really helped me get over my feelings of regret and help me move forward to making things better is every day I spend at least 10-15 minutes doing something I know I am really good at. Whatever it is that you know you are awesome at, take some time and do it for yourself every day (like for example, writing posts on megsmakeup!). For me I was always good at math so (and yes this is about the most pathetic, nerdy thing of all time) I will sit down and do some math problems everyday. It helps boost my confidence and remind me that even though I may not have made all the best choices or capitalized on every opportunity I am still a kickass person. And if that doesnt work for you Meg, remember that you are beautiful, smart and funny and most people consider themselves lucky if they have one of those three
I learned this one a long time ago and found it very hard to do, but once I learned, it was the most powerful thing I could do for my self. Everyday....take a long look in the mirror and say with meaning. I love you, you are a good person and you have a lot to offer not only yourself, but everyone you meet. Start out saying the I love you part. You would be surprised how hard that is to do with real meaning. I laughed at first, gave up many times and finally said it with meaning. It helps me a lot. I even say it to myself when I am having a bad day without the mirror in front of me. Good luck.I also do not watch TV, but very rarely. I have a very small TV in my guest room and if I need to watch something, it is uncomfortable to do so. This allows me not to compare myself to others. Another plus on the I love you chart.
Beste Hilsin
Meg, things I do when I am in funk to help me feel better are get outside and just look around at stuff, like trees, flowers, the ocean or any body of water always help to make me feel better. Taking the dogs for a walk and just breathing, no computers or phones to listen too, just the wind and birds, and stuff like that...Also, getting together with someone who makes you laugh and feel good is always a good idea. A happy movie, or a trip to Sephora (especially after a nice dinner with some good wine and friends!!). Oh and getting my hair done always makes me feel like a new woman!I love you so much, and there is always a phone call to me so we can laugh about stupid things we used to do...that is good for both of us :).xoxoxo
hi meg, when you have been in a relastionship for awhile you can somehow "lose" yourself. whats the essence of meg? what made you happy in the past? ipods with your favorite songs are the best. i have an ipod dock for listening to great music while i get ready in the am. if i am feeling lonely or whatever my favorite songs take me right back to another time and i feel so energized.i also write everything down on paper. if i am not happy with my appearance i write a list[yes its long enough to be a list!] and then to the side what i can do about it. if you are back in the world of dating-what are you the most self concious about? start there and address those issues. somehow i don't think you have any appearance issues though-take care you are going to only get better-carol b
Kate, that "making plants" suggestion really made my morning! I had to read through it a couple of times, and then realized the typo. Too funny! Yeah Meg, make some plants, and while you are at it, make some gold too, lol!
I live in Arizona, so when I start feeling overwhelmed, depressed or just about to tear my hair out, I get my husband to book a weekend in Sedona, to just relax and not do anything. It is time to think and reflect and is amazing how I can organize my thoughts and feel ready to start again. Just relaxing and not being responsible for anything for a few days gives you time to rejuvenate. I can tell by this blog you are a positive upbeat person and I am sure you will get over this hump quickly. And take care of yourself.
Good Gawd. I’m out of touch for a week or so... and in the interim, Meg’s life has taken a 270 (certainly more than a 180); I’ve been experiencing a series of earthquakes centered 30 mi away in Illinois, Kate is making plants, and all three presidential candidates make appearance on WWE (or so Jon Stewart says). Serendipitously enough, my dearest friend sent a plaque to me (which we have vowed to make sure is either an epitaph or part of a funeral service.) “Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, latte in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming ‘WOO HOO, what a ride!’” Don’t get me wrong, I don’t live every day of my life balls-out, but I have worked hard developing a joie de vivre... life’s an adventure. And I’ve had the best teachers: for whatever reason, I’ve buried far more friends than the average 42-year-old. (4:1 friends to pets) And of all of my friends and close family that had time to recognize their fate - all but one lived life to the fullest. My advice: Smile at strangers -flaunt your laugh lines; Say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’; be gentle to earth and those around you; and above all - live life like you have 28 days left to live. And keep in mind - you’ve helped hundreds and hundreds of women, including this cosmetically challenged farmwife. Besides, life is tidal... very good things are coming your way.
Okay Meg, I dont really know you, but l love, love, love this website and reading yourreviews are awesome. So, I have some advice. First things first, recognize that youare alive and healthy, and that you have a choice! A choice on every level. How you livewhat you eat, how you feel and so on. Once you realize that everything is a choice, sit stilland be quiet long enough to ask yourself, what it is that you want. If you could do anything rightnow, what would it be? And do it. Take time to be with yourself. Also, change your scenery.Go to that cute little bistro on the corner and sit with yourself and have some coffee and a dessert.Go to a museum, do something out of the ordinary daily life, but make sure it is somethingthat will inspire you. Lastly, be true to your soul at all times. I hope this funk passes with easeand I hope you feel better than ever, really soon! :)
I just spent this last weekend on a Woman's Retreat with my church...guess what the topic was? How to find joy in your life. I'm a big believer in a higher power and think he can do amazing things for us if we just ask. Meg I truly believe that we go through these trials and tribulations to make us stronger as a person. I'm not one to preach to others, but I would be glad to give you some details of what I learned at the retreat. Email me if you are interested.
2 words: "the Secret". It changed my life. You know I'm not a self-help book girl. But this one is powerful and it works!
OK I know this sounds crazy, but after doing it you can't help but feel better or at least giggle. Yep its my beauty secret tip. Dress up ( I like to use my old prom dresses or bridesmaids dress or formals) put on a tiara and watch what ever makes you happy, add in a few good girl friends and a bottle of wine. Seems silly but always makes me smile. I keep the tiara hidden but sometimes I put it on when I'm at the house by myself just to feel special. Beyond that I would recommend reading "Eat, pray, love". I also have a quote journal that I keep where I write down inspirational, funny, deep or other quotes I like or thoughts etc and read through it when I'm feeling down--I love those pretty journals but never keep one (blackmail material) so that is what I used for my quote book. And always you can look to us in the Megsmakeup community to bring your spirits up, I don't think there is any one of us who don't find this site inspirational and owe it to you for bringing us all together!
Totally tape notes to yourself everywhere! That's a great idea :) And positive music really helps me feel good too :) Hang out w/some animals--their happy vibe (esp from dogs) always makes me feel better.Watch a funny movie. Eat some of your favorite food.Doing stuff w/friends helps a lot too.Try making one small goal that you know you can accomplish each day, and accomplish it! :) This is a tricky one, b/c you can get discouraged if you don't do it, but make the goals small, and get it done :) Then reward yourself for doing it!
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My dog takes me out of a slump. She seems to know when I'm upset. She'll come nudge my arm with her nose and give me this concerned look. (I know that she cares about me!!) For a big old German Shepherd she sure is a sweetie!!I also go to inspirational quotes and smiling.
*~*AMY RENEE*~*When life hands me lemons, I'm opting for lemon pound cake!
It's 1,5 years forward now - do you ever return to this post, Meg? I'm sure that now you don't have questions 'what to do' anymore - not at least in this way. You seem to be doing very well, you look fabulous, your blog is blooming everyday and you have some good friends to rely on... life is going in the right direction! Just like it was meant to go!
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i always loce old movies theyre so awesome and different